Why get married? - So many people think this is backward thinking or need for security or legally helpful

I don't - I still believe in marriage. When asked why though, my thoughts aren't very clear or precise. In the process of clarifying the whys since society does not really care anymore.... here are my thoughts.

I will put them in bullet order so if one is considering looking at this for pros and cons it will be easier to pull out the bits they might agree with.

1. Marriage is really a certificate to say that yes you have a reasonable chance of your coupling able to survive the years.
2. The process of having to collaborate and get on with not just your husband or wife to be but the others important in your future husband or wifes life.
3. Organisational skills to get the church, reception, honeymoon, invitations, transport, dress, makeup help with organisating future events that will have to be communicated between the two of you then also more than just the two of you when little feet start pattering around the house.
4. Leads me to the next part, when capable of learning to communicate with your partner about about a mere wedding compared to both of your far more serious needs and wants for your offspring or even no offspring.
5. Respecting each others differences that you may not have known about beforehand, for example that absolutely beautiful cruise you wanted to go on is not an option as he or she gets sea sick.
   
6. Getting intimate in the bedroom is not how you make a bond so strong to last for life, to do that you can only honestly love someone after you know who they are and still love them. Finding out the very basics is a very good foundation. Basics? you say, yes I say;
1. What is his/her favourite cake - wedding cake collaboration
   
2. What is her/his favourite food - what choices will be made for the wedding breakfast
3. Where he/she will not go, or won't be as comfortable going - honeymoon choices and options.
4. Vows - where and what you both consider really important for the other to know (how much you love them, what you want them to expect from you)
5. Thoughts on theology and/or the bigger picture of life - when working out where and how you want to get married eg church, flower garden, jumping a broom stick or crushing a glass under foot.
7. Another very important point, why bother getting married as in time you will get to know this person. Well time is definately more important to a female obviously as the biological clock only ticks for a certain amount of time till it goes boom. And because of that would you prefer to know who you are coupling with before or after the little ones start running around? Coming from a split family this is a definate before answer from me. I don't want my children to be wondering what they did wrong when mum and dad break up.
8. It does not stop your chances of separation but most of the time a 50% percent chance of breakup from a wedding out beats the very high chance of an out of wedlock breakup.